Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Books That Have Helped - Updated 3/27/2014

I have found solace in many types of books: those written for survivors of suicide, for parents who have lost a child, for those who look to writing as a way of coping, memoirs and even fiction.  The number in parenthesis is the rating given to the book.  I use the GoodReads system.

1 - didn't like it
2 - it was ok
3 - liked it
4 - really liked it
5 - it was amazing


List of books on Josh's blog with short reviews.

Survivors of Suicide
  1. No Time to Say Good Bye by Carla Fine (5)
  2. My Son, My Son by Iris Bolton (3)
  3. Take the Dimness of My Soul Away by William Ritter (3)
  4. When Suicide Comes Home: A Father's Diary and Comments by Paul Cox (4)
  5. Grieving the Unexpected - the Suicide of a Son by Gary LeBlanc (3)
  6. Grieving A Suicide, A Loved One's Search of Comfort, Answers and Hope by Albert Hsu (5)
  7. Those They Left Behind by Karen M. Bryson (4)
  8. Aftershock by David Cox and Candy Arrington (5)
  9. Surviving Suicide: Help to Heal Your Heart by Heather Hayes (4)
  10. Dying To be Free: A Healing Guide for Families After A Suicide by Jean Larch and Beverly Cobain (4)
  11. The Empty Chair by Beryl Glover (3)
  12. Silent Grief: Living in the Wake of Suicide by Christopher Lucas (2)
  13. After Suicide by John Hewett (2)
  14. History of a Suicide by Jill Bialosky (4)
  15. His Bright Light: The Story of Nick Traina by Danielle Steel (3)
  16. After A Funeral by Diana Athill (2)
  17. Memory Slips: A Memoir of Music and Healing by Linda K. Cutting (4)
  18. The Los Angeles Diaries by James Brown (4)
Parental Bereavement
  1. Lament for a Son by Nicholas Wolterstorff (5)
  2. The Worst Loss: How Families Heal From the Death of A Child by Barbara Rosof (4)
  3. After the Death of a Child: Living With the Loss Through the Years by Ann Finkbeiner (4)
  4. Life After the Death of My Son by Dennis Apple (4)
  5. The Grieving Garden: Living With the Death Of a Child by Suzanne Redfern and Susan Gilbert (4)
  6. Beyond Tears by Ellen Mitchell (4)
  7. Making Toast by Roger Rosenblatt (4)
Journaling/Writing
  1. Writing Through the Darkness by Elizabeth Maynard Schaefer (5)
  2. Writing As a Way of Healing by Louise DeSalvo (5)
  3. Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg (5)
  4. Journal to The Self: 22 Paths to Personal Growth by Kathleen Adams (4)
  5. Bird by Bird by Anne LaMott (5)
  6. The New Diary by Tristine Rainer (4)
  7. On Keeping a Journal: Leaving a Trace by Alexandra Johnson (4)
  8. The Writer's Portable Mentor by Priscilla Long (5)
  9. Writers and Their Notebooks by Diana Raab (4)
  10. A Room of One's Own by Virginia Woolf (4)
Memoirs
  1. Lucky by Alice Sebold (5)
  2. Paula by Isabel Allende (4)
  3. The Suicide Index by Joan Wickersham (5)
  4. The Sum of Our Days by Isabel Allende (4)
  5. An Unquiet Mind by Kay Jamison (2)
  6. The Journal Keeper by Phyllis Theroux (4)
  7. I know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou (4)
  8. How Reading Changed My Life by Anna Quindlen (4)
  9. A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis (4)
  10. The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion (4)
  11. A Widow's Story by Joyce Carol Oates (4) 
  12. Darkness Visible by William Styron (5)
  13. Reading My Father by Alexandra Styron (4)
  14. Truth and Beauty by Ann Patchett (4)
  15. Autobiography of a Face by Lucy Grealy (4)
  16. Blue Nights by Joan Didion (3)
  17. My Brother by Jamaica Kincaid (4)
  18. Nothing Was the Same by Kay Redfield Jamison (4)
  19. The End of Your Life Book Club by Will Schwalbe (5)
  20. Half a Life by Darin Strauss (4)
On Suicide
  1. By Their Own Hand: Deliberate Self-Harm and Suicidal Ideas in Adolescents by Keith Rodham
Poetry
  1. In Memoriam A.H.H. by Lord Alfred Tennyson - post on Josh's blog
  2. The Art of Losing: Poems of Grief & Healing - posts on Josh's blog;   "The Dead by Billy Collins
  3. Monthly poetry posts:  January,  February,  
  4. Horoscopes for the Dead by Billy Collins - posts on Josh's blog 1) Grave and 2) Horoscopes for the Dead
    Original Poetry - written in memory of Josh (click here)

    Plays
    1. Romeo and Juliet and Macbeth by William Shakespeare - see two posts (teenage suicide ideation and grieving parents)
    2. Hamlet by William Shakespeare - see Death, Grief and Suicide Part I and Part II
    Fiction
    1. The Pact: A Love Story by Jodi Picoult (4)
    2. Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold (5)
    3. The Time Traveller's Wife by Audrey Niffengger (5)
    4. Twenty Wishes by Debbie Macomber (4)
    5. Ordinary People by Judith Guest (5)
    6. Beach Music by Pat Conroy (2)
    7. Legend of A Suicide by David Vann (3)
    8. The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath (2)
    9. Sea Change by Jeremy Page (3)
    10. The Girl Who Fell From the Sky by Heidi Durrow (4)
    11. The Hours by Michael Cunningham (5)
    12. The Catcher In the Rye by J. D. Salinger (4)
    13. The Memoir Club by Laura Kalpakian (2)
    14. The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller (5) - see post
    Afterlife
    1. Proof of Heaven by Dr. Eban Alexander (4) - see post
    2. My Son and the Afterlife by Dr. Elisa Medus (4) - see post
    3. Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives by Dr. Brian Weiss (3.5) - see post

    A list of recommended books for survivors of suicide from the American Association of Suicidology. 

    4 comments:

    1. I just noticed that you are currently reading The Greek Way by Edith Hamilton. Coincidentally my husband just asked me yesterday to order that book for him.

      Have you read Blossoms of the Lower Branches: A Hero's Journey Through Grief by Rebecca Guevara?

      Thank you for your blogs, they are so thoughtful and well written. I'm sorry that Josh is gone and that you need to write that blog at all.

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      1. I would never have read The Greek Way except that my daughter took a class in college and had to get this book. She recently moved to NYC and while going through her books, put it on my dresser since she knew I was reading the Greek tragedies. I hope your husband finds comfort within it as I have.

        Thank you for the suggested book! I will put it in my Amazon cart - looks like a book that would fit nicely with what I am reading and thinking about.

        I hope our boys have found one another....

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    2. "I hope our boys have found one another..."

      What are your views on the afterlife? I don't know what I think...but I would like to believe that a spirit or a soul continues. It's just too painful to think that my son could be completely gone (and it just doesn't help me to be told that he's in my heart....).

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    3. I do believe that Josh's spirit still lives but in my doubting moments, I think back to the "could possibly be" and the "most definitely is" signs that we have received - all of which I have documented on his blog: http://rememberingjosh.blogspot.com/search/label/sign.

      Have you seen anything that you thought was a sign from your son? Or a dream? Or even just a feeling?

      Do you want to begin corresponding via email? If so, here is mine: jandermom@gmail.com

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